April 29, 2025

Coming out as Genderfluid (not art related)

I just wanted to talk about it. I've been openly Pansexual since 2022/23 so this was the next step. I was firmly in the camp of thinking sexuality and gender identity was a bunch of overly complex rubbish which tends to takeover some people's entire personality but the binary system which is imposed on us from birth and it's maintained pretty aggressively by governments, religion and conservatives so yeah now I get it, it's exactly the same as the fight for gay rights years ago except present day. Remember, we've barely had gay marriage for a decade and the bigotry of the past is still alive in the minds that pushed against it.

I went down a conservative leaning alignment which in the end, never benefitted me so once I detached from that, it was back to where I left off. It was really an extreme form of masking which I put myself through and I can't stress how stupid that was because you're effectively an unpaid activist for people richer and better off than you.

I've had boyfriends, girlfriends and trans-boyfriends at high school so this could have happened if I had the support back then and not left to binge watch right-wing idiots on youtube speaking alone in their room unchallenged. The difference now is that I'm older, I see both sides and I get to make this informed unbias decision for myself without influence of schools or organisations and in the end, I like both girl and guy things so my gender identity is fluid as of March 2025 but I will still appear as male.